Linda, listen! My husband and I own a business that is at the mercy of mother nature. (Rain, rain, go away!) I get that he’s frustrated right now- so am I. We are doing all that we can, but of course money isn’t coming in as often as usual and it’s Christmas! Not complaining, it is what it is, but I always do everything for holiday or birthday/ anniversary prep and this Christmas is no exception. My Mr. Scrooge is not interested in the details involved with any celebration, ever. I’m trying to do all I can to be ready for my family gathering followed by his family this weekend at our home while working our business, caring for our sick child (Flu, flu, go away!), and prepping for Christmas Eve. Less than a week away, Linda! All I get from Mr. Scrooge every day is questions about what else I’m going to do for income. Am I putting in applications for jobs anywhere? Have I looked into anyone who might be hiring? Mind you, currently, I do everything for our business except the hard labor. And I appreciate the hard work the guys do, Scrooge included, but dang! Is it too much to ask for a little help praying and doing what we can do rather than adding anything else to my list? Aside from calling up ghosts of Christmas’ past, present and future, what am I to do about my Mr. Scrooge? I don’t want to hate holidays- or my job.
Mrs. Y. Cratchit Scrooge
Dear Mrs. Y. Cratchit Scrooge,
I’m so sorry you are having to deal with all of this during this already hectic and stressful time of year!
It’s hard when you live with such negativity from your spouse.
We all have learned the hard way that we can’t change people or control them.
My mother always told me to always come back with positivity when I was around negativity. Even though the negative person may just ignore your positive vibes, it is still seeping in their brain a little at a time. Lol.
With that being said, it’s still draining to be around someone like that.
My mother used to always look at my dad when in a heated argument and say, “Honey, I just love you!” As you can imagine, his face went to pure disbelief because it’s almost impossible to continue to fight when someone blurts that out. In other words, instead of fighting fire with fire, just put out the fire!
Hoping this helps and that you have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!